Do penises twitch when erect?

JSR (5)I get mail regularly from men looking for recommendations on what to read, or they ask questions about the M/M sub genre, to which they think I have answers or can find them. *g*

Recently I received a very interesting email from Stuart, a gay man who had quite a few questions. Here’s his very short bio – he is 46 years old and lives in the US, and up until  2004 he resided in New York. He didn’t tell me where he’s currently living because he probably doesn’t want any of you to visit.:) 

I decided to post his comments in several polls (there were too many to include in a single one) which will run on concurrent weeks, starting today, and I’m hoping that M/M authors can clarify why they do the things they do.:)

Here are his first 2 observations –

 A lot of the m/m fiction I’ve read refers to cocks that ‘twitch’ when a character is sexually aroused. Cocks don’t twitch when aroused (unless all the men I’ve ever known are engaged in a vast conspiracy to conceal from me that I’m different). A man when aroused simply begins to get erect. I don’t know why the authors of m/m fiction need this false ‘twitch’ motif, unless it’s because male arousal is basically lacking in drama.

 Along with cocks that ‘twitch’ is the motif in m/m fiction of men ‘thumping’ their penises if they are in a situation where having an erection would be inappropriate.

I’ve never met a man of any sexual orientation who does this. If one has an erection that is unwelcome, generally the inappropriate situation itself makes the erection go away. If not, relaxing and taking a deep breath does the trick. The strange attributes given to penises in m/m fiction can be off-putting since it destroys the suspension of disbelief necessary to enjoy an author’s fictional world.

So authors, what are your answers? Why do so many M/M authors refer to cocks that “twitch,” and have their protags thumping away!

I would love to hear from readers who have some knowledge in this area .:) I’m hoping that a few of the male followers of the blog (gay and straight) will give us the benefit of their expertise in male genitalia. The responses to this post should be interesting as well as illuminating !! Maybe it’s like the mythical tying off of the condoms post that I did sometime ago.*g*

99 comments

  • Kendra,

    I think the degree to which a m/m story presents itself as naturalistc dictates the level of accuracy I expect from the author. A story with two Orthodox Jewish protags who chew each other’s foreskin might be hot to the author but it would be an absurdity. If an author is setting their story in the contemporary gay community or a historical, I believe author’s have to do their homework or just switch to fantasy (a perfectly respectable genre). I guess the underlying question for me is whether m/m fiction really has anything to do with gay men and their various struggles to be recognized as fully human or if it’s really a way for straight women to enjoy the erotic, similar to the way lesbian sex functions in porn primarily consumed by straight men.

    -Stuart

    • >”I guess the underlying question for me is whether m/m fiction really has anything to do with gay men and their various struggles to be recognized as fully human or if it’s really a way for straight women to enjoy the erotic, similar to the way lesbian sex functions in porn primarily consumed by straight men.”
      .
      Is this even in question? It seems obvious to me that it’s the latter. In which case realism would be much less important.

      • “Is this even in question? It seems obvious to me that it’s the latter. In which case realism would be much less important.”

        Batboy126, I guess I hope there’s a real and abiding respect for the realities and varieties of struggle among the women who write M/M fiction. I’d hate to think that all the work we’ve done over the last few decades to create a world where our relationships are semi-licit is simply a backdrop for them to write what they find to be “hot” sex scenes.

        -Stuart

        • Stuart,

          Of course I can’t speak for everybody else, and I may not have the same viewpoint as everyone else since I’m not straight, but that struggle is the thing I love best about these stories. They wouldn’t mean half as much to me without it.

      • Batboy
        See, there you go again. I keep telling you not to generalize.:)
        I actually prefer the M/M books that have very little sex and more plot. I’m not interested in reading and reviewing PWP. If a story is 2/3 sex then it’s more than likely it will end up as DNF.

  • Kendra

    “The question–specifically the degree to which the questioner goes to explain that cocks don’t twitch, etc,–sort of implies a belief that m/m should reflect reality. Imo, whether cocks really twitch or not is pretty much irrelevant.”

    **

    As Tom Clancy said

    “The difference between fiction and reality? Fiction has to make sense”.

    ****

    As a reader of the genre who switched from het a few years ago because most of the stories and heroines were too ridiculous to be believed, I expect some level of accuracy in M/M. Sure these stories are fantasies, but the plots of contemporary stories should be believable and the characters should act in a way that makes sense, to a reasonable degree. If the story is speculative fiction then believability doesn’t matter because it’s a fantasy.

  • Yes, they twitch. I’ve seen it, and felt it. Morning wood, anyone? It usually twitches a few times before it gets, um, woody. Or it stirs. Or it rustles. And then someone complains if an author uses those verbs, too.
    ***
    A lot of women who write m/m have, you know, slept with men. I promise we aren’t all just making this stuff up, copying each other, or getting it from the Internet. 😛
    ***
    (For the record, my male characters’ cocks twitch in my het stories, too.)

    • Katrina

      ” It usually twitches a few times before it gets, um, woody. Or it stirs. Or it rustles. And then someone complains if an author uses those verbs, too”

      ***
      Stirs and rustles too? Guys seem to have much more fun than women. Life is so unfair.:)

  • “There is at least one documented case of a man thumping his penis hard enough to give himself a penile fracture”

    Why? Why would anyone do this to themselves. *head meets desk*

  • My Source:
    http://www.straightdope.com/columns/read/608/is-it-true-men-can-suffer-penile-fracture
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    Cecil Adams doesn’t mince words:
    “Frequently the victim suffers the injury while kneading his member in order to reduce an erection, a technique that in my experience usually has the opposite effect. One moron “awoke during the night with a desire to urinate,” whereupon he “hit his erect penis with his hand in order to alleviate this desire.” ”
    *
    The Wikipedia page for Penile Fracture also has THIS gem. Apparently you can pop your penis like you pop your knuckles.
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    The practice of taqaandan also puts men at risk of penile fracture. Taqaandan, which comes from a Kurdish word meaning “to click,” involves bending the top part of the erect penis while holding the lower part of the shaft in place, until a click is heard and felt. Taqaandan is said to be painless and has been compared to cracking one’s knuckles, but the practice of taqaandan has led to an increase in the prevalence of penile fractures in western Iran. Taqaandan may be performed to achieve detumescence.
    *
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penile_fracture
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    My world just got weirder.

  • Mine twitches when it is not being directly stimulated but I am elsewhere,ie someone chewing on my ear or neck.

  • I’m pretty sure the reference is to when the man contracts the groin muscle when erect… You know it sorta gives a little bob :)

  • Neither I, nor my partner ever have the need or desire to “thump” our dicks in discouragement. In fact, touching them at all just encourages at that point.
    And there might be a slight “twitchy” thing we can do with them, but it’s far more like “check this out! Pretty cool, huh?”, and less a reaction to extreme sexual arousal. That’s just ridiculous.

    Don’t these authors have any gay friends who can answer these questions? I’m inundated with them all the time from female friends.

    • Michael
      Thanks for responding here to my other post yesterday. You should have commented on that one so that the M/M authors would see it :) because this post is over a year old.

      One of the reasons I do these posts is to lift the veil on the gay lifestyle because the guys complain to me all the time about how unrealistic the characterizations are, and people like you help me reinforce this, (just in case they think it’s all my idea). :)

      Thanks for writing and if you have a chance to comment on the other post which I wrote yesterday about strange goings on in M/M romances, that would be great.

  • Penises definitely do twitch! It is a function of the pc muscle. Voluntarily or involuntarily. Once one strengthens his pc muscle with the kegels, he can twitch inside his partner. I am a woman and have had many experiences with men causing me to have an orgasm from them “twitching” inside of me, both vaginally and anally, so I assume it’s possible for m/m, also.
    I knew a guy once who had such good control over his pc muscles that he could keep his penis in various states of erection and therefore various angles for quite a long time. Good control works lots of ways!
    I was a body work sex therapist before I was a writer/editor/publisher, so learned these techniques as part of therapy.

    • Wow Sally, I never knew one could do so much with muscle control of the penis. These posts are a way of educating myself as well as the other readers. Thank you for this information. 😉

  • This is false because I have first hand knowledge that my boyfriend’s penis twitches while he is erect/hard.

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